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Womensselfesteem.com
Sept 2008 Newsletter!
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Hello & welcome to my September newsletter!
September is an important change marking our seasons, in the fact that we feel the end of summer nearing & children return to school for another year of growing & learning!
Unfortunately for us here in Florida...life is a bit unpredictable at the moment as we are praying very hard that the Hurricane season ends without too much destruction or fatalities. We have managed to only feel the outer bands of a few Hurricanes in the past month...lets hope we continue with the same amount of luck throughout.
I would like to bring to your attention that latest news flash in regards to a members meet-up! It is actually going to happen in the last week of this month...we will be meeting up in Sullivan, Indiana, where Valerie Power (wse member) has so generously opened her home and her mother's home to anyone needing a place to stay. We are looking forward to meeting as many woman as possible. The plan is to meet, relax, exchange a few stories, tips laughs and to leave with some very heart warming memories.
Oh, another thing that I would like to bring to your attention is: womenssselfesteem.com has revamped the on-line store. We now have E-Bay, Netflix, Walmart, Silkies, Apple Bottom Jeans, Celltrade...ect!
Please do take the time to check out our on-line store when you visit the front page of the site. Everyone is always asking me what they can do to help in supporting the site, well there is one very strong request. Shop through the site and all proceeds will be put toward the costs incurred in keeping the site a great place to be.
Ok..enough of my mumbling! I hope to meet you all in Indiana:)
Dorothyl@womensselfesteem.com
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Relationships & Self-esteem!
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There are so many emotions in a human mind. We feel loss, pain, loneliness, deception, insecurities, happiness, balanced, confused, confident, positive, negative and so on.
We feel these emotions all on our own.....then we add a relationship to those emotions and it really does become challenging to say the least. We not only have to learn to identify and understand our own inner workings but now we have to try and understand someone else's emotions. No wonder relationships are difficult and hard to maintain.
In order for a relationship to be successful both partners have to be on the same page...by that I mean you should both be compatible in thoughts, desires, and mutual respect.
Beware of the differences in personalities and goals.
Sure, there are a few differences that we can & do end up working out together and are manageable. Those are what I would label as minor. The red flag differences are what make a relationship unbalanced and they are extremely difficult and wearing on ones self-worth and self-esteem. It takes consistent acceptance, unconditional love and a very laid back, tolerant personality to be able to deal with an unbalanced relationship.
If you chose to enter into a relationship and know that this potential partner is very different from yourself...then you better be prepared for a long life of giving into that person's whims and conditions.
Remember this rule of thumb,' Think before you act' or this one' Learn by your mistakes" these should be treated as hind site especially when we are beginning a new relationship.
If I have learned one thing about relationships and people, they never put their thoughts before their hearts. It is as though whoever thought up the saying, 'Love is Blind' had been there and done that way before mankind. Love is Blind and it also has been a catalyst for murder, suicide, and self destruction. Love is one of the strongest and controlling emotional traps to be caught up in.
Love can be as pleasurable as the sweetest gift or as painful as the deepest cut.
Love can blind you from what is not seen and what is bad, only showing you good and what you want to see, that is why love is so powerful! It is somewhat of a double edged sword...that is why we must treat it like a field of mines....walking ever so gently and being ever so aware of hidden dangers and red flags!
In saying that, the questions that come up are...how does one avoid the blinders of love & how does one maintain a successful relationship?
-We must teach ourselves and our children to think before we act.
-We must look beyond the need for company, security, sex, passion, body image ect.
-We must really get to know a person and test the relationship.
I am not referring to games here...I am talking about testing another persons thoughts and actions.
-We must also think about life without that person and know that they are not what is going to keep you breathing.
-We must allow for personal space....this is a vital part of a relationship remaining strong and free.
- Guilt should never be a tool to gain affection..No-one should ever be put in a position of feeling like they are suppose to do this or that out of guilt.
-We must realize that tomorrow will come and that we are making a vital choice in the decision of committing to a life with this person.
-We must learn that patience is a definite virtue and that all good things DO come to those who wait.
-We are the only ones responsible for our own happiness..to expect our partners to be responsible is totally wrong and will only result in your being disappointed over and over again.
-We must accept our partner as a individual who has the right to make choices and decision as you do.
-We must love who we are before we can assume we love another person.
-We must TRUST..without trust, we close the first door to loving freely.
-We must learn to listen & take time to reply or react. Without hearing how can we communicate or converse effectively.
People are all different, we reach out for different reasons, we make choices for different reasons, we endure abusive relationships for different reasons and we interpret the importance of our own personal selves differently.
Where we do not differ, is in the suffering of those bad choices, the personal turmoil we experience in a loss of a relationship for whatever reason and the abuse we continue to accept in hopes for a change in our relationship.
We also do not differ in the fact that we all have been born with the freedom of thought. We are all clearly equal in the fact that we can control our own thoughts just as we control our bodily functions.
Some of us are not taught to be individuals and that we must learn later in life. The fact remains the same...we all have the ability to choose from right and wrong.
I have set the stage for you, now it is up to you to carry the play out in which ever part you choose to play!
~D~
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Romantic songs Videos!
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Here are few very positive videos to start off your day and your year with! Please click the links and enjoy!
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Celine Dion- Send Me A Lover
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Celine Dion- Nothing IS Sacred...
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Guided By Angels-Something Worth Fighting For
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Celine Dion-Lets Talk About Love
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| Quotes |
"There is an important difference between love and friendship. While the former delights in extremes and opposites, the latter demands equality." Francoise D'Aubegne Maintenon"
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"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart". Helen Keller
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"If we seek the pleasures of love, passion should be occasional, and common sense continual". Robertson Davies,
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"Do you know what it means to come home at night to a man who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means". George Burns :)
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