Abuse makes you want to eat away those horrible feelings of shame.
Abuse will push you towards a life of getting high to numb the pain.
Abuse will make you turn away from your sexual desires, or detach yoursel during sexual interludes with your partner.
Abuse will make you angry all the time.
Abuse will make you vomit when ever certain people or objects bring you back to that time period.
Abuse is a forced personel violation, that affects you physically, mentally and spritually.
Abuse makes you feel dirty,bad,and even deserving of your guilt.
Abuse creates a lonliness that noone can see.
Abuse manages to deeply inbed into your entire being, infecting your sense of self, your work life, and even your parenting skills.
Abuse will make you feel different from everyone else.
Abuse will make you fear allowing anyone inside your head for fear they will turn away, or doubt you, or accuse you of being a bad person.
Abuse will control you.
Abuse will make you hate you.
Abuse will hamper your ability to take care of yourself.
Abuse makes you feel self-destructive,even suicidal.
Abuse will take away desires to reach any goals.
Abuse make you feel terror, rage, disgust, pain, and humiliation all at the same time, all the time.
Abuse betrays your innocent love and trust.
Abuse creates barriers that stops your ability to be affectionate or recieve nurturing.
Abuse continues to confuse you so that any person you may have a relationship with will remind you of the abuser.
Abuse will keep you going through life alone because you cannot seem to hang on to a relationship.
Abuse will make you panic if people get too close.
Abuse will make it very hard for you to say NO throughout your life.
Abuse will totally confuse what love and being intimate are suppose to be.
Abuse teaches you how to stop feeling.
Abuse makes you feel that the world is an unsafe place.
Abuse brings conflicting sensations of arousal to your body.
Abuse will create conflict in your mind regarding whether sex is right or wrong.
Abuse will replace trust, safety, and your ability to share with secrecy, isolation and fear.
Abuse will make you weaken your ability to face confrontation.
Abuse will cause you to go through life always coping.
Abuse will force you to rationalize your abusers actions.
Abuse will teach you the art of denial.
Abuse will challenge your minds powers of repression. (ability to forget)
Abuse has the ability to haunt your years later, when you least expect it.
Abuse will teach you how to leave your body at will, by either focusing on a certain object or thought.
These are just some of the things that abuse does to the victim, creating a life of imprisonment and torture and for some no life at all. Victims do not just experience maybe 1 or 2 of these after effects, they experience all of them.
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