Relationship Information > A Risk in Falling in Love


To truly be in LOVE or to be truly loved  would just rule forever.
Is that not what we are forever yearning for?
Do we not search out that true feeling of LOVE from the second we are able breathe ?
We search our parents eyes for that look of LOVE. We smile because we know it makes them smile with the LOVE that they feel for us.

To LOVE or not to LOVE?
That is the question we all ponder through out life. We all take huge risks every time we take that initial step towards that, oh so special feeling.

Why do we so deeply yearn to be someones everything?
Why is it that we want nothing more than to feel like we are the LOVE of that special someones life?
Why do we spend tyime in our lives looking for that special person that will hopefully make our world seem like a dream?
We want nothing more than to feel safe, secure and right in our choice of partners. But how do we really know that this one is 'the one' we will LOVE unconditionally forever and ever?
How do we know that this choice of LOVE will not walk away and break our heart?
How do we know that this will be the LOVEthat will love us when the chips are down and we are not that perfect person that they fell in LOVE with or that we once were?

Well I hate to sound like a wet blanket here on a cold night, but nothing is guaranteed.
Life comes with no promises. We make our lives what they are, right at this moment. In all matters of the heart we take great risks, and as I have said before, to give LOVE is to risk losing LOVE.
That is just another one of those dreary reality checks.

Like Hurricanes and Tornado's, we have no control over anything that nature has given to us. We can only do our best with what we have in our control. I write a lot about our life being a special gift. LOVE in turn is a gift when it is given and when it is received. It does not happen because we say we want it to, or expect another to return our wants. I am sure that almost everyone out there will agree to that. I am also certain that the 'Stalker' mentality is derived from that notion.

LOVE can be a very scary challenge. "Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it! It makes you so vulnerable. It opens you up, totally exposing your heart only to let someone get inside you and twist things up so tight, you can barely breathe. You build up defenses, you build an entire suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then that person, not seeming any different from any other person, wanders into your life. You give them your heart. They didn't ask for it. They did something one day, like kiss you or smile your way, and then your life isn't your own any more.
LOVE takes your heart hostage.
LOVE swarms inside you.
LOVE devours your entire being and leaves you crying in the darkness. With the simple phrase, "lets just be friends".
Love turns into a knife, cutting its way into your heart.

The pain is like no other you have ever felt nor ever want to feel again. Not just in your imagination, not just in the mind. It's like losing a part of who you are, or rather who you were. That my friends is one reason we should be so careful to not make the wrong LOVE choice. I know reading this totally makes you wonder why we ever even think about falling in love.. But we do, over and over again. Why?

Is it such a innate overpowering desire that we really have no control?
Is cupids arrow that strong? YES on both counts.

LOVE is one of the most powerful sensations we will ever endure in our lives.
LOVE knows no limit to its power, no end to its trust, no loss of its hope.
LOVE can overpower anything.
LOVE needs trust to grow in the right direction.
LOVE stays up, when all else has falls down.
LOVE is felt when one grasps another's hand.
LOVE is as much of an object as an obsession. Everybody wants it and everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it. Those who do, will cherish it, get lost in it, and among all, will never, ever forget it.
LOVE does not waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead it creates a perfect love.
LOVE is somewhat like an hourglass, the heart fills up on one side as the brain empties the other.
LOVE is admiring ones heart: as admiration is the love of ones mind.
LOVE is with you when you least deserve it, because that's when you really need it.

These are a few thoughts that I have that tell me what LOVE is and why LOVE is.

Humans tend to feel incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to 'complete' us. We must understand that until we admit that while our partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we alone are the only ones that can bring that same fulfillment to ourselves. No one is responsible for our happiness.

Some people fall into a pattern of needing that feeling of 'NEWNESS' in their relationships. These people will go from one relationship to another forever, never getting off that roller coaster of failure. They never understand that LOVE has stages.
LOVE at first is so full of mystery and excitement.
Then we move into becoming comfortable with one another and blending our ways to continue to strengthen our LOVE for one another.
We continue to grow with each other, adding newness to each other by growing in one world, but as two people.
Our years together build our road to our destiny of spending our lives and enduring tribulations as one.
If you want life to always be a bed of roses, then you best grow a few gardens, because the roses will only get there if you grow them or bring them to your life.
In other words sweet people of LOVE, your LOVE and passion is only what you make it. If you ignore it or get too busy to feed it, it will die or fade away. It's like any other living breathing thing. LOVE needs to be treated with respect and treated like the special gift that it is.

Another thing we must be very aware of, is the importance of accepting each other for who we are, and to not twist each other to fit our own image, otherwise LOVE is only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

LOVE like you mean it, it is the only true way to let your LOVE for one another grow stronger and continue to be all powerful and wonderful.
 

 


Relationships ask us to contemplate "forever" as a way of life.

It is a world without end of our own creation.

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The purpose of life is to discover your gift.

The work of life is to develop it.

The meaning of life is to give your gift away.

The gift, is LOVE!

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