Will You Be My Valentine

Oh to be in love... February is certainly the month of LOVE, so it seems. Tradition brings us Valentines Day. This is a day that lovers will exchange anything from cards, chocolates and cute teddy bears, holding a red heart, to sweet romantic letters and dinners. It almost seems that besides Christmas and New Years Eve, no one wants to be without a mate or partner on this day also.

I had never really wondered where Valentines Day came from. As a child it was about red cinnamon hearts and who could get the most Valentines cards by the end of the day at school. It mattered not whether they were from a boy or a girl, just how many were handed to me. Oh how life changes and expectations grow... Will You Be My Valentine?

For me I believe that Valentines Day should be everyday. We should treat our partner’s everyday as we treat them on Valentines Day. But do we? NOPE. Why is that? I think that a good guess would be because we get so caught up in life’s everyday challenges and struggles that we just seem to forget the important stuff. It is no different than appreciating people once they have passed away, yet we were way to busy to take a minute when they were still alive to let them know how important they were to us then. Oh, to be human and to error!

Valentines Day is approaching again. And again society has set us up for yet another fall. I mean seriously, if a guy does not get his girl flowers, or the right kind of chocolate or better yet a ring, he is as good as dead. I do believe truly that Valentines Day has turned out to be somewhat of a woman’s celebration day, and that’s quite alright by me and most women of the world. Women like to receive gifts from their partners a lot more than in reverse. That’s not to say that men do not like to receive gifts from us, they just worry about it a whole lot less.

Getting back to the meaning of Valentine’s Day, I have done some research and came up with a few interesting explanations for you. Check these out: One legend contends that, ”Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men—his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.”

Another:

“Valentine actually sent the first ‘valentine’ greeting card himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl—who may have been his jailor’s daughter—who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed ‘From your Valentine,’ an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It’s no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.”

There are a lot more explanations of Valentine’s Day if you really want to search and get even more confused. The bottom line; in the world we live in today, Valentine’s Day is for lovers and heart drawn couples. That’s basically what keeps Valentine’s Day a special Day. It is a day to show extra care and concern for your partner. Here are a few ideas that I have come up with that both partners can print and share. Give this list to your true love. It is a very special list. It is not candy, chocolates or teddy bears. It is something even better and so much more lasting. Challenge each other every day with this list and see who can carry out more than the other.

1. Smile and hug your partner. Showing them affection every time you see them is the most special gift you can give.
2. Remind your partner exactly what drew you to them.
3. An unexpected back rub or foot massage or even just run your hands through their hair a few times is always a very welcome surprise.
4. Start their shower in the morning for them and maybe even wash their back.
5. When you feel a complaint about to escape your lips, kiss your partner instead.
6. Work daily on refreshing your ideas and thoughts. We all love an interesting mind.
7. Make a habit of leaving little love notes strategically placed so that they are sure to find them.
8. Put an extra effort in smelling good. We all love to inhale yummy smells.
9. Be their slave (so to speak) for a day. This is always a fun thing to do, but you need an entire day. So work it out to fit both schedules.
10. Brag about your partner to your family and friends. Who doesn’t want to be on a pedestal?
11. Keep falling in love with your partner and let them know it every time.
12. Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader or fan. Show how proud you are to be with them.
13. Be your partner’s fun and sunshine.
14. Share as much life as you can with each other. Life after all, comes around but only once.
15. Last but not least… Love your partner, like you love CHOCOLATE!

This is my list; to me this is what Valentines Day is all about. Have A Very Happy Valentine’s Life!

~Dorothy Lafrinere~

• “Oh, if it be to choose and call thee mine, love, thou art every day my Valentine!
• -Thomas Hood

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