We all know that our self-esteem levels are very important in feeding our strength to deal with the challenges of daily life.
More than not you will read that one of the best ways to strengthen a low self-esteem or self-image is through positive self-talk and positive affirmations.
These are very good steps to begin with, but they cannot succeed fully without your own ability to identify why you have these negative or self-destructive feelings to begin with.
You must also identify with these steps as being new thoughts about you....not more thoughts to compare your old thoughts with. Hence that feeling like you have taken 1 step forward and 10 steps backward. Sounds like self-defeat, does it not?
Rebuilding ones self-esteem or self-image demands commitment to the change.
It demands that you let go of how you do not want to feel and you must take these steps seriously.
The mistake many people make is to allow themselves to believe out of desperation that by simply reciting these positive things and/or posting positive affirmations all over their walls that they will magically feel like a new person.
If you are one to take the easy way out and believe it will work, you have just placed yourself in what I call the 'see-saw' syndrome. You go up and down and up and down never finding a balance. All of the positive articles, affirmations, self-talk, hypnosis, even surgery will not change how you originally feel about you if you do not focus on these steps and understand that you must let go of how you use to feel.
It is vital to find out where the connection is broken just as in a car....you cannot fix a car if you do not know where it is broken now can you?
You also must take this goal of moving forward as seriously as a drug addict does when the decision to rehab is made.
Making a decision to rebuild ones self-esteem is huge.
You must also realize that it is always going to be up to you to not allow how other people or elements act to affect you.
No one can make you feel bad about yourself. That is your doing and that is your choice.
Outer beauty, also known as 'curb appeal' fades away quickly as there is always going to be a new ideal set by media as to what is in and what is not. This is another way to sabotage all of your hard work in feeling better about who you are, or creating a new feeling about who you are. If you allow your outer imagine to identify how you feel about yourself....you will fail. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as it has been said so many times.
Get over that outer beauty wall if you want to feel good about you and have a happy healthy enjoyable life. The clock is ticking and you are wasting valuable time worrying about what you can not control. Life is waiting for you, but it will not wait forever.