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Q. What is the definition of a female orgasm?

A. Also called "coming", climaxing, or "the big O", an orgasm is often the pleasurable climax during sexual activity. It's defined as the peak of sexual arousal when all the muscles that were tightened during sexual arousal relax, causing a very pleasurable feeling that may involve the whole body. During orgasm, many women's heart rates skyrocket, their breathing quickens, and their blood pressure rates increase; muscles throughout their bodies spasm, but mostly those in the vagina, uterus, anus, and pelvic floor.

Q. How do women have an orgasm?

A. Here's the short simple answer: Almost any type of sexual stimulation can result in an orgasm. A woman can have an orgasm through intercourse, oral sex, or anal sex; manual stimulation of the vulva by her partner; body rubbing ("dry humping"); or masturbation. Some women can even have orgasms just by touching their breasts or by fantasizing about sex!

For many women, the contact has to be much more direct — right on the genitals — and in a regular, rhythmic pattern. Stimulation of two major parts of the genitals can cause a woman to have an orgasm: the clitoris (which is a part of the vulva) and the vagina. A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of just her clitoris, just her vagina, or both. But most women have orgasms through stimulation of the clitoris.

Q. Why do women have orgasms?

A. The human body truly is a wonderful thing. Check out this fact: When a woman has an orgasm, her cervix, the mouth of the uterus, contracts as the uterus moves. This causes the uterus to dip or bob into the vagina. If the male has already had an orgasm, then this area is rich in semen (sperm). This motion of the cervix will actually draw the semen into the cervix and uterus to aid in it's passage towards the ripe egg. In otherwords, to help the woman get pregnant!

Q. Are there differnt types of orgasms for women?

A. Stimulation of two major parts of the genitals can cause a woman to have an orgasm: the clitoris (which is a part of the vulva) and the vagina. Although some professionals believe there is just one type of female orgasm, others believe that stimulation of these two parts of the genitals can cause different types of orgasms. During a clitoral orgasm, the vagina becomes longer and it causes a pocket to be formed beneath the uterus. During a vaginal orgasm, the uterus drops lower and shortens the vagina. Stimulation of both the vagina and clitoris can cause a blended orgasm; which could be considered a third type of orgasm. All three of these orgasms may feel different from each other.

Q. What is the "G-Spot"?

A. For some women, genital arousal results most intensely from direct stimulation of the vaginal canal by a finger, a sex toy, or a penis. Many women find that the anterior wall of the vagina is especially sensitive, forming the so-called "G-spot" that can make vaginal play intensely pleasurable. For other women, the walls of the vagina seem almost without sensation. This is very common and nothing to worry about. Anatomically, the sensitive roots of the clitoris extend back to the anterior wall of the vagina, so women may find one or the other or both forms of genital stimulation satisfying.

In some women, the G-spot is relatively close to the vaginal entrance, in others the distance is greater. This makes a difference in terms of what sort of penis, sex toy, or finger penetration is preferable for vaginal or G-spot stimulation.

Q. What is "Female Ejaculation"?

A. When an orgasm happens, some women experience an "ejaculatory" or "squirting" response, in which a small amount of fluid is expelled from glands located just above the vaginal entrance. This fluid is not urine (pee), but a substance similar to the man's pre-ejaculate fluid. About 25% of women will ever experience this "ejaculation". Those who do have these types of orgasms, should not feel embarrassed by it. Trying to stop the ejaculation will only lessen your enjoyment, and may stop you from having orgasms at all.

Q. I can't seem to have an orgasm with my husband/ boyfriend. What can I do about that?

A. About one out of three women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex with a partner. Most women experience an orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than through vaginal penetration. If a woman is having difficulty reaching orgasm, she may want to try clitoral stimulation during, before, or after vaginal intercourse and oral sex to have an orgasm. Remember, every woman's body responds differently to various kinds of sex play. Each woman has a different preference for the ways in which her clitoris is stimulated.

It may take some time, but practice makes perfect. You may also want to try to find your "G-Spot". Don't be shy about using sex toys such as vibrators. They are a wonderful way to learn about your body and your erotic preferences. No one can tell you how to have an your orgasm. The way you will experience the best pleasure, is the way that is right for you.

Q. I think I can have an orgasm, but it seems to fade out right when I'm about there. Is there a way to get past that?

A. There are many, many reasons why a woman may have difficulty reaching orgasm. Most reasons are psycological, but some are physical. As far as psycological, being too shy with yourself is a biggie. When you want to have an orgasm, you probably wont have one. You may be thinking about it too much. Too much concentration can play a large part of NOT have an orgasm. It's time to relax and enjoy and be comfortable with yourself and your partner, if you are with one at the time. You have to get to know your own body and what it likes and what feels good. Feeling a sense of trust and safety with your own bodily pleasures is often necessary for orgasm, which usually requires a "letting go" of conscious control over bodily excitement. Out of anxiety, some women unconsciously prevent their orgasms, or lessen their intensity, sometimes by holding their breath and blocking the pleasurable flow of energy throughout the body. Additionally, don't be afraid to use sex toys such as vibrators. They are a wonderful way to learn about your body and your erotic preferences.

Q. I seem to be very Dry during sex and I get some pain in my stomach also. Is there a way to make the pain go away?

A: Vaginal dryness is not uncommon, and there is no reason to worry. You should buy a vaginal lubricant from a pharmacy. This may also be caused from a lack of foreplay. Some females take a little longer to get lubricated than others. Females tend to get "there" with a little more romance and fondling. The pain you may be experiencing is from pressure and it could be caused by an infection, or swelling. You should seek medical attention to be on the safe side. You also may want to discuss this with your partner. It may be wise to use less force during intercourse at first and then once your fully lubricated, you may not feel any pressure.

Q. Is there a difference between men's and women's orgasms?

A. The feeling during an orgasm seems to be about the same for men and women, but Yes, there is a difference. The most obvious difference is that male orgasms are almost always accompanied by an ejaculation. During orgasm for a female, rhythmic contractions take place within the pelvic muscles as well as the walls of the vagina. For most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm. Additionally, women do not experience a needed relaxation period or recovery period due to the fact that their bodies do not require rebuilding of ejaculation fluids. Women do however vary in clitoral sensitivity levels after they have experienced their stimulated orgasm. This may require a period of time to relax and return to a normal sensation before continuing. Women also vary in the number of orgasms they can experience (multiple orgasms), where as men cannot.

Q. What is a male orgasm?

A. Simple definition: In a human male orgasm, there are rapid, rhythmic contractions of the prostate, urethra and the muscles at the base of the penis, which typically forces stored semen to be expelled through the penis's urethral opening.

Q. What is an "ejaculation"?

A. Ejaculation is the process of ejecting semen from the penis, and is usually accompanied by an orgasm.

Q. How does a man have an orgasm?

A. Orgasm for men are usually induced by stimulation of the penis. Some men can experience heightened orgasm by stimulation of the prostate through the perineum, or with a finger or dildo inserted in the anus. The typical orgasm usually lasts from 3 to 10 seconds and produces about one teaspoon of semen.

Q. Can a man have an orgasm without an ejaculation?

A. Yes! It's possible to have an orgasm without ejaculation, dry orgasm, or to ejaculate without reaching orgasm. Some men have reported that the ability to consciously separate orgasm and ejaculation has allowed them to achieve multiple orgasms. Some men who have practiced this have reported that they can experience a continuous "wave" of orgasm.

Q. How long does sperm live after ejaculation?

A. Sperm can live for many weeks in the testicle. sperm remains capable of fertilization only for about 24 to 48 hours though after ejaculation vs. a female egg, can only to be fertilized for about 12 to 48 hours after ovulation. Sperm can live as long as 6 days in clinical studies.

Q. How long does sperm live after ejaculation?

A. Sperm can live for many weeks in the testicle. Sperm remains capable of fertilization only for about 24 to 48 hours though after ejaculation. Sperm can live as long as 6 days in clinical studies.  Interesteing female fact: a female egg, can only to be fertilized for about 12 to 48 hours after ovulation. 

Q. Can a condom reduce my husband's sensation while having sex?

A.  It takes a couple of uses to get used to wearing a condom when you use a them for birth control or for STD protection. Some men report that they actually prefer using a condom because it dulls their sensations enough to slow down their urge to orgasm and make sex last longer. Still, others say that they cannot maintain an erection while wearing a condom. They say it desensitizes them. There are many types of condoms on the out there on the market today. Try to be careful when choosing a condom though. The thinner it is, the easier it may tear.



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